Before I began my Whole30 Experience I scoured the internet for more information. I read books, studied recipes, and spent countless hours reading and watching videos about other people’s experiences. I stalked people on Instagram, and posted a million things on Facebook. I researched and agonized and worried and stressed… because let’s face it – there is a lot of stuff out there and the general consensus seems to be that “it sucks!!! (but it is worth it.)” The more I posted and the more I read, the more I saw a few common
excuses myths keep popping up. Since I have now been there and done that, I wanted to debunk a couple of these for anyone who is contemplating their own Whole30 Journey.
1 – It is so HARD.
The one thing that kept coming up in all of my searching was how “hard” it was. The Whole30 crew addresses this by saying things like “fighting cancer is hard – not putting creamer in your coffee is not hard.” But I want to bring even more to that – because for me it was different. If you read and watch everything that is out there – it will have you scared to even try. Had my friend Jen not been so persistent and challenging, I probably could have talked myself out of even giving it a shot, based on how “hard” everyone said it was.
Mine was not hard. Mine didn’t even suck that bad. In fact most everyone that has joined our Whole30 Facebook Group has said it hasn’t been near as hard as they thought it would be – and I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that we simply do not focus on the bad – instead we laugh and share the good. You can absolutely choose to focus on the headache you may get the first day… or you can get excited that it is working. You can whine and complain about getting tired, or you can realize how badly you have fueled your body in the past that you are “hungover.”
Everyone is different. You can not compare someone else’s experience to know how yours will be. The standard “schedule” that even Whole30.com put out wasn’t even my experience. Yes I was tired the first day or two – but that was about it. I didn’t have a “Kill All The Things” Day until Day 15 – and that I think had more to do with hormones than eating.
Point is – it isn’t that hard. AND you will get more of what you focus on. So focus on good.
2 – My Partner won’t do it.
So….?! Why does that have any bearing on anything? Look, I used to smoke – my exhusband and I both did. I quit. He didn’t. Did it suck to be around him while he still smoked? Of course it did. But I knew it was what was best for me, and now 7+ years later I know it was still one of the absolute best things I have ever done for myself. It took will power, dedication, and determination… sound familiar?
Saying you are not going to better your health because someone else isn’t is like saying you are not going to repair your car cause the guy next to you is broken down. It doesn’t make any sense. What someone else does should have absolutely no bearing on you. Fact: you do not need someone to do this with you. Fact: you do not even need anyone’s approval. Fact: your partner will probably come around anyway when they see how well it works for you.
I did not change my family’s diet or routine at all when I began my Whole30 journey. If dinner was something I couldn’t eat – I made myself something else. Or if dinner was chicken and rice with veggies… I just simply did not put rice on my plate. They eat fried chicken – I bake mine. They want pasta, I eat spaghetti squash. They saw me making changes and began wanting to “taste” mine… what has happened is the whole family has now begun eating better. Leftovers seem to be more of the “not allowed” stuff and I can’t keep veggies in my house for the life of me.
Only YOU control what you ACTUALLY put in to your mouth. Not everyone in your house has to be Whole30 for you to succeed. I open the cabinets every day and have everything from long grain wild rice (my favorite) to popcorn to kidney beans… and every day I choose to not eat them. My family does, but I do not. I disagree with the whole “clean everything out” routine that most diet books tell you to do… instead I stare temptation straight in the face and celebrate that food has no control over me anymore. THAT is Whole30.