I have a confession. One of my guilty pleasures is watching Kendra Wilkinson – the once Playboy Bunny now NFL wife and mom. I fell in love with her watching “The Girls Next Door” and have loved watching her show Kendra as she has gone from a single wild child to marrying Hank Baskett to giving birth to Little Hank.
This week’s episode was all about her feeling “sexy” again as a Mom, and was she really “allowed” to still even WANT to be sexy. She participated in a radio show with some idiot who calls himself “Mancow” (as if the name doesn’t say it all) where he practically accosted her for even wanting to be sexy again as a mom. He even went as far as to tell her she was “Marilyn Monroe” when he first met her and now she is “Mrs Brady” – stripping poor Florence Henderson from ever having any sex appeal since she began Brady Bunch in her mid 30s.
This”Mancow” person continues to try to school Kendra on what is appropriate behavior for a Mom in today’s world. He then launches into how she is feeling insecure about herself right now – I am certain because of watching her show which has chronicled her struggles with trying to get a “pre baby” body back (which we all know is virtually impossible) to Hank’s struggles with being traded all around the NFL. If you want to listen to the entire interview, you can do so here.
As a mom, I was completely offended by this guy. (I wish they would interview his wife – I can only imagine how she feels about hearing that once you become a mom you are no longer sexy) It brings up an interesting topic though.
Why are Moms not “allowed” to be Sexy?
I am a firm believer that appearance matters. (Hubbly will tell you that I put on makeup to check the mail.) I spend at least a half an hour solely on hair and makeup and a perfectly put together outfit complete with just the right amount of jewelry. I believe that self esteem is directly linked to how you feel about how you look, and when you look and feel sexy, you will perform better in every single role in your life. It never occurred to me once I became a Mom that any of that was supposed to change, as “Mancow” would like you to believe. (still reeling over his nick name by the way… I mean, really!?)
As far as going out… I believe this all boils down to an issue of BALANCE. Sure, a Mom has a responsibility to her children, but I do not believe we stop being WOMEN the moment we become Moms. I was a wild child much like Kendra before becoming a Mom, and I would be lying to you if I said I had not gone out on the town since. But I can outnumber my nights out on the town with nights of Disney movies, painting fingernails, and dancing to Hannah Montana.
I think it is great that Kendra is still taking pride in herself and her looks, and lets herself BE Kendra from time to time. I have seen so many women completely lose their identity after becoming moms, and it is just sad. They stop taking pride in their looks, regressing to their husbands Tshirts and sweatpants, only getting “dressed up” for date night. (which is what? Once or twice a YEAR!?)
Do I think she should pose nude for Playboy again? No, even though I think her posing would show that us moms CAN in fact still be sexy confident women – which I believe is her intention. I think that she should continue to model – with clothes on – to show that she is a beautiful, successful, confident, powerful MOM and that we all can (and should!) be. Rock on Kendra!