Tonight after getting my fix of Steven Tyler, I began channel surfing and stumbled across CW’s Shedding For The Wedding. The show is hosted by Sara Rue, who began with a spot on the short-lived show Eastwick, and then became the new face of Jenny Craig. She reminds me so much of my former best friend that I love her and hate her at the same time, but I have to admit she does a great job at hosting the show.
Now, the theory behind Shedding For The Wedding is awesome – couples competing “Biggest Loser Style” to earn the items for a dream wedding. The couples are staying in “the house” and working out together, learning how to eat right, participating in challenges, all together as a team. Each week (or show, I didn’t catch how often) they weigh in – TOGETHER – to see their overall weight loss.
The build up was great – as someone who has watched Biggest Loser just about every season, I loved how Shedding For The Wedding brought even more of a “team work” feel with awesome incentives and rewards for their good work. The teams seemed fired up and excited – ready to not only get healthy, but have the wedding of their dreams. They sweat, they cried, they agonized over donuts… all the making of a great diet show.
Then came the weigh in.
I have to admit I stood there with my mouth hanging open as relatively LARGE couples showed little to no weight loss. Couple after couple shed their Tshirts and stepped on the scales – losing as little as 0.67% of their weight. I was dumbfounded. How can you work out that hard, and eat that well, and not lose weight?
I thought about the time I went running with Mike, and how that is still the day that I went the farthest – the fastest – because I had him rooting for me by my side. I thought about his love for hockey, and how he will go and “give it his all” when I am in the stands cheering for him. We are each others biggest supporters, biggest cheerleaders, and biggest fans.
But – we also let each other slide. We decide “together” to go to those fattening restaurants. We decide “together” that we do not have time to exercise. We do not push each other DAILY to do the things we know we need to do – as both of us would like to shed a few pounds. I know I am much more concerned about it than he is – though lately I have begun to think I am just more vocal about it than he is. We have fallen into that “comfort zone” where being “a little fluffy” is accepted and put off until “later.”
Shedding For The Wedding brought up a great point –
CAN you really lose weight with a “partner” who loves you unconditionally?
Can you get healthy with your “cheerleader” being someone who thinks you look great just the way you are? Can you stay on track for changing your life with someone who is not invested in your results?
It will be interesting to see how Shedding For The Wedding turns out. For the couples, I hope they are able to support each other in the way that is needed in order to succeed in their weight loss efforts. As for Mike and I… I think we will be hiring a personal trainer.