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Lifetime’s #7DaysofSex Challenge Day 4 – Get Out

Today’s task for the 7 Days of Sex Challenge was an easy one – GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!  Since Mike and I are both workaholics who work from home, we can both agree that the need to “break free” from the house is a welcomed event.    We laugh because people say how since we both work from home we must see each other so much…. the truth is sometimes 6 hours can go by and we have not spoken a word between us.

On Day 3 we perused through Lowe’s and Home Depot and found some fun stuff to help spruce up our back yard to get ready for Summer, but naturally, as soon as I got home I thought of other things we should do. So our “get out of the house” day actually began with a huge pancake breakfast at a local restaurant and then another stop by Home Depot.  Another $100 later and we were heading back home.

Even though it was Sunday Mike and I both had a few things we needed to get done workwise, plus we got home right at the heat of the day, so we decided to relax and recover from our carb-induced pancake coma until mid afternoon.

Around 2pm we headed to the back yard – Lowes and Home Depot bags and boxes in hand.  We purchased a new plant stand for all of our potted plants and Mikes live terrarium which now houses all kinds of critters that I try not to imagine.  (he lost me with the spiders) as well as a Topsy Turvy plant stand thingie with 2 strawberry Topsy Turvy planters.  Who new gardening could be so romantic, eh?

Taylor and I also found the cutest little garden starters called GrowUms.  They are truly the cutest little things ever.  So while Sami and Mike put together the plant stand, Taylor and I planted everything from cucumbers to bok choy to zucchini.  I absolutely can not wait to have a garden again.  And unlike last year, this one will be a container garden, so I think I will be a lot more inclined to take care of it.  I will keep you posted on their progress.

Then we switched and Sami and I put together the Topsy Turvy stuff while Mike and Taylor raked and bagged leaves.   Once that was finished Taylor and I began prepping for Dinner while Mike and Sami began installing our new – and huge – mailbox.  Our sweet little mail lady left us a note asking us to get a new box – ours broke off a few months ago and we just stuck it back into the ground – it was the perfect height for Taylor to check the mail… but apparently too low for our little mail carrier to get to it.  So we got a nice new big, tall one and left her a little note thanking her for putting up with the short one so long.  (we got a note today saying thank you)

Taylor and I cut up a fresh garden salad and baked potatoes, and I grilled a beautiful London Broil on the grill.  In keeping with the “Get Out Of The House” theme we dined on the back porch together – the weather was perfect.   We cleaned up after dinner and Mike got ready to go to a Bachelor Party with all of his buddies.   He left around 7:30 and I tucked the girls in at 8 and headed straight for my office where I got sooooo much done!  Honestly it was one of the most productive evenings in my office ever. I guess clearing my head and spending the whole day not even thinking about work helped make me so much for focused and on task when I did finally get to my office.  Hmmm…

Mike woke me up when he got home to tell me all about his night.  We enjoyed laughing and snuggling together – even in the wee hours of the morning.  It was a perfectly romantic day together as a family working on making our house more of a home, and then spending some time just talking to one another without any distractions.   Honestly, to me, it doesn’t get much more romantic than that.

Have you checked out the 7 Days of Sex show yet?  Set your DVR to catch it on Thursday nights on Lifetime and take the challenge yourself to see how it can improve your relationship in just 7 days! Can you handle it?  ;)

Disclaimer: I received a Survival Kit for the purpose of this blog review series.  All opinions are 100% my own.

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Lifetime’s #7DaysOfSex Challenge Day Three – She’s On Top

I was so glad my day of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge fell on a Saturday – so I could fill the whole day with fun stuff that the four of us could do as a family.   My original plan was to all go play putt putt golf – Mike has recently begun playing golf and loving it, so I knew since we had the girls we could play a round of putt putt to kinda symbolize us supporting his playing…. but it was HOT.  Like we-would-be-miserable-out-there-hot.

So Plan B was to head to the Club for lunch – Mike and my favorite lunch spot – and show the girls the golf course.  They of course loved it and we enjoyed introducing them to everyone we know up there.  There were 2 huge tournaments and a wedding going on, so the place was pretty busy.  The girls were perfect though and acted like little ladies all through lunch.

Next we spent a few hours strolling through Lowes and Home Depot.  There were a few things we have talked about needing for a while, so we enjoyed just perusing and being out of the house but in the AC.   Naturally I found something to buy at both, but that is ok since Day 4 is “get out of the house” day, so we will be spending time sprucing up our back yard… something we all really enjoy doing.

On the way home I had a moment of inspiration, and told everyone when we got home to change into something nice – we were going somewhere special for dinner.  And hour later we were back in the car – only I knew where we were headed.

I took my family to the Oar House – the place that Mike and I had our first official date over 3 years ago.  Let me tell you, if you are in Pensacola and have not been – you absolutely must try this place out.  I have no idea how I missed such a fantastic place until Mike took me for our date.  Although I am kind of glad I did – it has really become kinda “our place” to go for a romantic night.

We sat by the water and dined on everything from fried pickles to steaks to seafood to key lime pie while watching the boats come into the marina for the night.  We took pictures of the ducks and counted a million hermit crabs.  It was perfect.

Driving home we began seeing some gorgeous old cars and muscle cars and realized it was time for the Saturday Night Car Show that is held right by our house and I have said a million times that I have wanted to stop. Well, this time we did – and we perused the lines of cars telling the girls all that WE knew about the cars – and putting some of the time frames in perspective.

We laughed at the enormous Pontiac Bonneville that was a very old version of my first car – and at least 4 feet longer than mine.  We saw a car from 1931 and I told Samantha that Mamalo – my late grandmother – was 10 years old when that car came out.   They had some swing music playing and we boogied around just looking at all of the beautiful cars until it was time to head home and to bed. We went home, got the girls in their pajamas, and tucked them in to bed.

After such a full day I was ready to head straight to sleep, but because of the challenge Mike and I stayed up a while longer to be together, and afterwards of course were glad that we did.   We didnt turn on the tv, didnt read the Kindle, didnt get on the computers… we just were together.

It made me think of all of the nights I have been “too tired” or “too busy”  and “not in the mood.”   Not in the mood for WHAT?!  A great time?  Strengthening my relationship? Burning off a few calories!?  I mean really, what exactly have I “not been in the mood” for?  I realized what a stupid, stupid excuse that was to turn down Mike’s advances or to not initiate my own.   In the grand scheme of things – what’s one more hour – or even half an hour –   when it can do so much for your partnership?

You can bet this is a lesson I am going to remember.

Disclaimer:  I received a Survival Kit for the purpose of this series.  All opinions and experiences are 100% my own.

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Tips To Lose Weight With Portion Control

The last few weeks have made for some pretty amazing changes for me – many of which having to do with my Jean Size funny enough.  (hey, how you feel about yourself and how you feel overall are pretty intertwined)   Maybe it was because I finally wrote my Life List – giving me a constant and public list of things I wanted to achieve “in my lifetime.”   Maybe it was just the start of another year that finally inspired me.  Maybe it was just making the decision to quit letting the sh*t from my past hold me back.  Yeah, probably it was that.

The biggest changes have been in my lifestyle when it comes to diet and exercise, and boy people are starting to take notice.  I have a picture on my computer that says “It takes 4 weeks for you to see your body changing.  It takes 8 weeks for friends and family.  It takes 12 weeks for the rest of the World.”   Well, it’s no surprise that here in the 15th week of the New Year I have received THREE requests for a “what in the world are you doing to lose all that weight” blog post.  SO – here’s the secret:

PORTION CONTROL.

That’s it.

I do not “diet.”  I do not drink “shakes” for my meals.  I do not take pills.  And I certainly have no interest in having major surgery – I was never able to get THAT overweight that a doctor would do it for me anyway.

I am not depriving myself of anything.  I am not going to restaurants and eating celery while everyone else eats pasta.  I still eat things like Cowboy Casserole and Chicken Marsala.  I did go without drinking alcohol for about 6 weeks but I am happy to say that’s over.   I eat whatever I want – whenever I want – I am just more aware of the amount I am eating.

But HOW do I do it? 

A few weeks into the year I was hanging out with my friend Trisha talking about how I really wasn’t seeing the results I had hoped for by eating “Clean”  – probably because I ate pretty “clean” all along.  We started talking about portions – it was like a lightbulb went off.

Trisha told me to “cook for one less person” at dinner time.  Since we are a family of four, I always cooked 4 chicken breasts, 4 hamburgers, 4 pork chops – whatever.  Well…. Taylor is FIVE.   She hardly needs an entire serving.  So usually since we had that extra “half” – Mike and I would end up eating what was left cause it “really wasnt enough to save.”  I began cooking for three instead of four – dividing the three portions into four servings – and lost 6 pounds in ten days.

I was hooked.

But that was the easy part.  What about all of the rest of the meals?  What about snacks?

You have probably heard the term “portion distortion” a million times.  Probably even seen pictures that show you what a meal should look like versus what it really does look like.    I have tried to keep those images in my mind every time I go to eat anything… and it has worked. 

1. Use smaller plates.

No matter whether it is breakfast, lunch or dinner, using smaller plates will help you to train your brain to see that you are “cleaning your plate” even when it is only maybe half of what you are used to.  Plates have grown almost as much as our portions over the years, and those of us who grew up with a “clean your plate” parent have continued filling – and cleaning – those plates over and over again.

There is no reason why you need to eat from a plate much larger than the size of your hand.   This plate – which to most would be a “salad plate” – filled one time is ample food for a grown adult.  Will you still be hungry?  Possibly as you are adjusting to this new way of eating, you may.  But remember – if you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten.

Remember that you are NOT “starving yourself” and do not let your brain tell you that this will not work because you are going to be miserable.   Give it 20 minutes for your food to settle and see if you are really still hungry.

2. Measure your snacks.

Is this annoying?  Lord yes.  Is it a pain in the butt?  Absolutely.  Is it necessary? YEP.  Anytime I get any kind of “snack” food, I spend some time portioning it out into my new favorite-invention-ever – Ziplock Snack Size bags.  I divvy things up into portions – regardless of how large or small that may be.  This way when I want a snack – and I recommend you have at least 2 a day – I can easily grab a bag and know I am getting exactly one serving.

3. When buying food, do not set yourself up for failure.

In our “Super Sized” world we have been taught that bigger is better…. unless of course you are talking about your weight.  Big Houses, Big Cars, Big Macs, Big Boobs – it’s EVERYWHERE that things should be BIG.   Talk about a set up.

When grocery shopping – do not choose what is “big” but choose what is “better.”   When choosing meats especially – a 16 ounce sirloin should feed your entire family… not just your husband.  There is a reason why filet mignon is such a great steak – it is tender, juicy.. and typically just the right size.  Even fruits and vegetables should be portioned out – there IS such a thing as “too much of a good thing.”  Your body simply does not need that extra food.  Period.

The only thing that you should work towards being “BIG” in your life is your confidence and your bank account… justsayin.

4. Eat 2/3 vegetables and 1/3 meat.

When you are filling your small-ish plate, always load your veggies first.   It doesn’t matter if it is all green beans – just make sure there are more of them than there is meat.   Obviously if you can steam those vegetables its even better – I still swear by my Westbend Food Steamer as a staple in any house that wants to be healthy.  (and it’s on SALE!!  You’re welcome)

Vegetables typically have less calories than whatever meats you have paired them with, so let yourself get “full” on the foods that are best for you.  Plus they will help with your digestive system and getting rid of all that stored up stuff you need to lose.

5. Drink enough water to float a minivan.

I am kidding… you only need to float a compact.

The thing is, most adults are devastatingly dehydrated.  Have you ever FELT thirsty?  Do you know that by the time you actually FEEL thirsty you could be 20 to 30% dehydrated!?   In fact most people mistake the “thirst” sensation for hunger – which only makes it worse if you do not drink enough while you are eating that food-you-were-not-really-hungry-for.

Water does incredible things for your body – including naturally suppressing hunger and helping to metabolize fat.  By drinking “ice cold” water you can really rev up your metabolism because your body will have to work extra hard to warm that water up for proper digestion.

Get in the habit of drinking tons and tons of water.   I even used an iPhone app that would sound an alarm every hour to remind me to drink a glass of water.  Don’t judge – it worked.  Now I literally can not go anywhere without my water.

My favorite part about getting healthy with portion control is that it is something that it is quick, easy, controllable, cheap, and most importantly – I can do for a lifetime.   Everything else I have ever tried – from shakes to bars to pills to wraps – were not permanent, so I would lose a little while, and then go back to “normal” and pack it right back on.

Now my “normal” is reasonable portions of whatever I want.  I am not depressed about “dieting” – this isnt a diet.  It’s a lifestyle change.  This isnt a get-to-my-ideal-weight-and-pig-out-again plan.  This is about being aware of what my body needs, aware of what it doesn’t need, and caring enough to be disciplined to that above all else.

We simply do not need all that extra food.  Just like we do not need all of the extra weight.  Get rid of it.  Just resolve to change.  It really can be THAT easy.  Does it suck?  Yes, at times.  It is worth it?  Absolutely.  Get out of your HEAD and get to losing the weight.

I have recently begun weight training on top of my portion control – but I can tell you that is actually making me gain weight, so I do not attribute it to my initial weight loss success.  I do however know that it is helping all around and though the scale may be  creeping up from adding muscle, the jean sizes are still creeping down, and ultimately that is all that really matters to me.