Last week Mike and I were asked to participate in the 7 Days of Sex Challenge which accompanies the new Lifetime Reality Series 7 Days of Sex. Though we got off to a rocky start on Day 1, the week was absolutely amazing and changed so much about ourselves and our relationship. We learned a lot in just 7 days, and the few days since – hey, I have been crazy busy with Brandcation this weekend – have been different as well.
To recap the week – Day 1 was an “anything goes” day… and for us it was a day of a huge misunderstanding, hurt feelings, and some hurtful words being thrown around at each other. Not exactly how I had imagined the kick off to this Challenge. But the next day and even still Mike and I agree it was a “necessary” argument, and though some hurtful things were said, some very good things have come from it as well. Day 2 Mike got to “be on top” and choose the activities of the day. It was a wonderful family day of eating out, watching movies, eating entirely too much candy and popcorn, and an early bedtime. On Day 3 I took the family out shopping and perusing the Home Improvement stores, and then to the place Mike and I had our first date. Day 4 was full of working in the garden, putting up a new mailbox, and just enjoying being outside and not cooped up in front of our computers. Day 5 Mike helped me with a lot of my “to do” list… which in itself was wonderfully romantic. Day 6 I had one last chance to pamper him and make his day a special one.
Day 7 was literally the day before I kicked off the first 2012 Brandcation Bloggers Gone Coastal Event so needless to say I had a million things to do, but Mike and I made a point to spend some uninterrupted time together – getting away from computers and cell phones and work phones… and just BE. We made some plans for the future, discussed issues from the past, and reaffirmed that we are “in it to win it” with each other.
All in all it was an incredible week, and I am so glad I was asked to be a part of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge for Lifetime. Mike and I have talked about continuing the ummm… “challenge” and continuing to make time every single day for each other and spend more time making the effort to do things for and with the other person – even if we do not “feel” like it. It made a change in our relationship too – leaving for Brandcation the next day was tough, and unlike the two other Brandcation trips where I was really happy to have the break from reality… I really missed Mike on this trip. From the Ziplining to the Stargazing to the Parasailing… the whole time I wished Mike was experiencing it with me.
Sure it sounds crazy, but I fell in love with Mike all over again this week. Though Mike and I were in a really good place when this began, we had still fallen into a place of monotony, just going through the motions of a typical American family – work, house, kids, pets, bills… and then getting up the next day to do it all over again. I was reminded at how lucky I am to have a good man by my side every day of my life – supporting me, challenging me, making me laugh, and cheering me on. I had really begun to take him for granted, and I am thankful to this Challenge that I realized it and have been making an effort every day to show him how much I love him, and how thankful I am to have him in my life. I have to think that if everyone made the time to do just that, the divorce rate would practically plummet. How amazing would that be?