As a divorcee I can tell you one thing Mike and I constantly work on in our relationship is keeping the romance alive. We make sure to spend time every single day just focusing on one another, and make sure to never take each other for granted. Here are some tips from Adam&Eve, a leader in Romance products, with some easy tips you can do to keep the romance alive in your relationship.
Ways To Keep Romance Alive
Keeping romance alive and kicking can be pretty tricky. We learn what our partner likes and end up sticking to it, rarely deviating from the prescribed formula and leaving ourselves wondering why we are, in fact, getting bored. But with a little added effort, you can revitalize your dulling and mundane relationship.
A great way to re-spark some romance back into your life is to get away. You don't have to travel far, just pick a hotel in town or nearby, set the kids up with a sitter and pack little to nothing. Being able to separate yourselves and focus solely on each other is a great way to reconnect.
Remember when you first got together and you would stop at nothing to impress each other? You would spend hours getting ready and continuously search for a sweet little something you could surprise them with. Go back to that time and surprise each other again. Do little things that can be noticed in a big way, like picking up their favorite wine and cheese on the way home from work, cleaning up the house so they can relax or even get them a massage, better yet a couples massage.
After awhile we forget the importance of complimenting each other. Instead, we pick on the smallest things and find faults far more visible than good qualities. It's easy to focus on the negative, but if you want to put your relationship back into drive, you'll have to start complimenting your partner again. Remind them of the things you like about them, point out when they look nice or let them know how much you appreciate when they do an everyday chore.
Change things up in the bedroom. At this point, you know what will get your partner going and simply go through the motions. Turn things back up by coming to bed in sexy, new lingerie or with a new toy. Your partner is sure to appreciate the added effort and new found enthusiasm. If you're looking for inspiration, head over to adameve.com and see what you can come up with.
Finally, make an effort to do more together. Even if doing more together just means you handle the grocery shopping together or replant the garden together. Make an effort to be a team again. Remain positive and enjoy the time you're spending with each other. And more importantly, if you can, make time to go on dates with each other again. Try out new places together and surprise each other with fun, interesting dates.
Keeping your romance alive and your relationship going strong requires daily work, but if you keep open communication and can both be on the same page about the improvements you want to make, you'll see a difference pretty quickly.